Is Anger Controlling You?

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Anger Management Training Helps You Manage Anger Issues

If you are finding that you feel like you are about to explode at any given moment then you may be suffering with an anger issue. If you have managed to keep it within you up to this point then you still have anger under control. On the other hand, if that anger is bursting loose whenever it wants, then anger is controlling you.

Either way if you suspect that you are dealing with an anger problem it demands attention. Here are a few pointers to help you get things in place again so anger is not controlling you.

Anger Management Training Help You Recognize Your Anger

Often when individuals are feeling anger they don't stop to think about what they are feeling. They just know that they are mad. It could be they feel extremely irritable towards another person, a circumstance or themselves. In any event most likely the individual starts off justifying their feelings of being irate. At this point the first step is not to determine who is the cause of your angered feelings, but just to recognize that this is the state you are in.

Looking at the issue

Next thing you need to do is look at the issue. The next time you feel angry ask yourself what it is you are angry about. Maybe the kids didn't close the door on the way out to school, or you can't find your car keys, or the computer didn't boot up fast enough.

Justification

Now you need to determine is this thing that you are mad at valid enough to spur your anger. Perhaps you have asked the kids several times to remember to shut the door and they keep forgetting. Okay this may be grounds for becoming irate. Then maybe this has never been an issue before and really you know the door just didn't close properly. Yet you are still angry. Do you think you were looking for something to be angry about so you could put a reason to why you are feeling so angry?

Level of anger

Even if you are justified in your anger what level is it at? Are you just mildly irritated that the kids didn't close the door or are you fuming mad? You need to determine if your feelings really do fit the circumstance

Duration of anger

Does your anger over this one particular issue keep brooding within you all day, or do you soon forget about it? If you have expressed your anger over the situation for example, does that alleviate the angry feelings or do they still linger?

These are all different areas of anger that you need to consider to determine if anger is controlling you. If you take a look at a situation honestly, and you realize that it really wasn't an issue that warranted any anger or even the degree of anger that you felt, then there is a problem. Of course this can happen to anyone on occasion, but if it seems like it's a repeated occurrence then there is most likely an anger management problem you have to deal with. The same is applicable if after you access your hot tempered moments if you realize that you are really always looking for something to become angry over, because you are really just trying to justify your feelings.

These little self check exercises should help you determine if anger is controlling you, and if so then you need to get the help needed to correct this.