Our Institute's focus is on an anger management class which will help court ordered anger addicts overcome their anger problems
More than any other
emotion, anger can
have a serious
impact on health
long term as well as
create tension on a
daily basis. It
immediately affects
me physically and
emotionally. A
sudden outburst of
anger will sap
energy for the rest
of the day and on
into the night.
There is also damage
to relationships,
particularly within
marriages and kids
growing up in this
environment. The
anger management
tips listed below,
when applied,
provide advice for
defusing these
unwanted reactions.
Slow burning anger
is often more
subtle. Resentment,
irritation,
impatience, or
feelings of
insecurity or
bitterness can wear
a person down over
time. Prolonged
levels of this kind
of anger can cause
elevated blood
pressure, threat of
heart disease, and
other anger
disorders.
An angry person may
see the results of
anger, but has
difficulty getting
out of the vicious
cycle.
Remembering the
right anger
management tips or
techniques can help
them respond in a
positive way.
The
definition for anger
from a prominent
dictionary is as
follows: A strong
feeling of
displeasure and
belligerence aroused
by a real or
supposed wrong.
Negative traits that
cause anger
Discouraged or
unconfident Often
issues come into our
lives for which we
don't have control.
Family or job
responsibilities can
become overwhelming.
There could be
failures that are
too much to bear. It
may appear that
there is no way out.
Resentment, anger,
and depression can
easily be expressed.
The temptation is to
become defensive and
block or drive
others away with a
hard exterior.
Proud Having an
attitude of
superiority is a
common trigger for
hurt feelings. When
others don't
recognize this
superiority, there
is often tension.
This leads to
fighting pride.
Showing contempt for
anothers point of
view or position is
a way of showing
dominance. Boasting
draws attention so
that others will
notice their
greatness. When this
person is not
recognized as they
hope, this then
becomes a cause of
anger. Even the idea
of not winning an
argument will bring
on antagonism.
Self-centered The
selfcentered person
insists on having
their own way and
often expects to be
the center of
attention. Things
need to be done on
their own schedule
and for their own
convenience. This
person may attack
those who oppose
them or withdraw
completely. They try
to manipulate others
to get their own
way. Short term
upset can result in
a long term
bitterness.
Bitter There is
always the chance of
being hurt by
another person,
group of people, or
by circumstances.
The pain suffered
can lead to
resentment,
hostility, and anger
that can take root
and grow through
time. Lack of
forgiveness makes it
hard to overcome
these roots of
bitterness. Rage can
explode out in
unrelated areas as
it festers under the
surface. This can be
very abusive for the
target of the anger.
This hurts the angry
person as well and
alienates them from
others.
Verbal attacks often
come with sarcasm
that is used to put
others down. The
offended person
often tries to hide
the fact that they
have been hurt.
Fearful or insecure
Everyone faces
danger or crisis.
Situations that
cause fear can be
traumatic
experiences. They
can be draining and
painful. Also, our
inability to deal
effectively with
crisis may leave us
feeling shameful or
inadequate. Having
to go through the
pain felt during
these times can
activate anger
toward the perceived
cause. If another
person is the cause,
they may get a large
portion of wrath and
endure the insults
poured out on them.
Anger becomes a
reaction to our
hurt.
Self-centered Most
people have an
agenda for how they
want to live their
lives. Within limits
we have the freedom
to do just that,
especially in the
United States. We
have the freedom to
decide where to
live, how to live,
how to spend our
time and money, and
how to spend our
free time. When
people or
circumstances get in
the way, the feeling
is that anger is
justified. There
could be a sense of
being disturbed or
violated.
This may be tested,
however, in the
daily grind of life.
The boss may require
overtime or block a
deserved promotion.
Our children may be
difficult to deal
with and require
additional
attention. The
neighbors may
disagree on noise
levels or on
boundaries.
Unhappy Many people
are just unhappy
with their lives.
They feel that they
have been mistreated
or have faced
unpleasant and
undeserved
circumstances. Anger
is just under the
surface of the skin.
They try to suppress
their aggressiveness
but the irritable
person may be
grouchy and have a
quick sharp tongue.
In their aggression,
they may appear or
threaten violence.
Often they are
bitter and become
more and more
isolated from social
situations and
people.
How should these
issues be dealt
with? The initial
tendency may be to
run away from these
people. On the other
hand, a well
adjusted friend or
relative may try to
resolve the anger
problems with
understanding and
patience. However,
if the issues still
persist, the
reaction back may be
irritation,
frustration,
indignation, or even
exasperated
hotheaded wrath.
4, 8, 12 OR 24 HOURS OF COURT ORDERED ANGER MANAGEMENT CREDIT.